Tag: Lazarus

Strategies for Staying Sane: Enhancing Your Five Senses

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Stan was described by someone as “up in the stratosphere.” He seemed to dwell on abstract intellectual issues to the exclusion of all else. He admitted that he did not particularly enjoy food, sex, music,…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Using Paradoxical Techniques

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Clay was at his wit’s end. His mother-in-law often offered him free and unwelcome advice in the form of personal attacks. He went toe-to-toe with her once or twice, but this only aggravated matters. “What…

Strategies for Staying Sane: A Special Empowering Image

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Leon had a demanding job and often felt stressed out. He grew concerned when his doctor told him that his blood pressure was too high. He discussed the situation with a close friend who mentioned…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Using an Emotional Thermometer

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Ronnie was inclined to fly off the handle. She was hypersensitive and tended to respond with exaggerated emotion to most situations. A close relative commented: “Just about everything about Ronnie adds up to an eleven…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Breaking Bad Habits

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Constance found herself pulling her hair again.  She had done so most of her life, but in the last few months became aware that her hair was actually thinning.  She knew she had to stop. …

Strategies for Staying Sane: Exercising Your Brain

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Molly, whom we met in the previous vignette, doesn’t know it, but she could employ several specific methods to better balance her perceptions. When a friend suggested some options for her, she said, “I’m satisfied…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Achieving Mental Balance

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Molly was described by her friends as a well-developed negative personality. “She’s very good at seeing the dark side of things, but she does not often detect the positive aspects of her experiences,” they observed.…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Reprogramming Your Mind

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• George had been an unhappy and anxious person for most of his adult life. Finally, after many years of silently watching him suffer, his younger sister, Jennie, suggested he seek counseling and disclosed to him…

Strategies for Staying Sane: The Power of Imagery

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Bill and Bob were good friends for many years who met while starting out as entry-level employees at a large corporation.  They both developed an interest in golf and would play together regularly.  Over the…

Strategies for Staying Sane: What to Say When You Talk to Yourself

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Charlene was very hard on herself and often put herself down.  While she’d never dream of verbally abusing or even harshly criticizing others, she nevertheless thought it was perfectly acceptable to treat herself in this…