••• Charles met Debbie at a friend’s wedding and found her to be very attractive. A few weeks later, he invited her to join him for dinner with two other couples. Debbie was so quiet throughout the evening that Charles…
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Ruth’s Blog: We are every age we have ever been!
We are every age we have ever been. I am struck by my own reaction to events. Through out the day there are moments and events, and all manner of things, to stimulate the senses. And, we each interpret them…
Thinking Yourself Happy: On Making Judgements vs. Being Judgemental
••• Howard was nicknamed “the judge.” He hadn’t spoken to his older brother for three years as a result a minor incident. One of his coworkers said, “He brings to mind a kangaroo court in which the judge eagerly slams…
Thinking Yourself Happy: Beware of High Expectations
••• Brad worked as a factory supervisor. He expected his employees to start work on time, to avoid dallying around the coffee pot, and to observe the proper lunch breaks. He cut his workers little slack. He was not a perfectionist but…
Trees! Wanna Keep Them? Go Easy on the Mulch!
These trees have way too much mulch going up leaning against the tree. Their bark will rot under the mulch and eventually kill the tree! • Spring is almost in the air, I saw some landscapers putting mulch around trees…
Thinking Yourself Healthy: Unhappiness Is Self-Created
••• Caroline was not a happy woman. S he saw herself as a victim of circumstances. She blamed her unhappiness on a long list of external factors (other people, the economy, the weather, the government, her employer…), never dreaming that her…
Thinking Yourself Happy: Nobody’s Perfect!
••• Harry wanted the perfect wife, the perfect job, and the perfect home. At age thirty-nine he was still unmarried, unemployed, and living in a tenement. His quest for perfection had made it virtually impossible for Harry to be satisfied with the…
Thinking Yourself Healthy: The Dangers of Faulty Positive Thinking
••• Isaac suffered from what could be called “blinding optimism.” He focused exclusively on the bright side of life, on all the good events. By sweeping harsh realities under the rug, he was often taken by surprise when unmistakably negative circumstances arose. He was…
Thinking Yourself Healthy: More about Shoulds & Musts
••• Norman, a twice-divorced thirty-six-year-old lawyer, came for therapy. He often ran into interpersonal problems, but recently he had lost three close friendships, had a serious falling out with his parents, and his fiancée had broken off their engagement. No wonder! Norman had…
email: Things You Should Know but Probably Don’t
1. Money isn’t made out of paper; it’s made out of cotton. 2. The Declaration of Independence was written on hemp (marijuana) paper. 3. The dot over the letter ‘i’ is called a ‘tittle.’ 4. A raisin dropped in a…