Someone recently asked me if I was always happy. Certainly not. But I do think I am almost always in a state of well-being. One can have a feeling of well-being even when feeling sad. Well-being comes from so many…
A Smiley Lady’s Blog: Well Being
Category: Mental Health
Thinking Yourself Healthy: The Tyranny of the Should
••• Al could not understand why he had no close friends. He saw himself as honest and caring. What he did not realize was that he had so many shoulds, oughts and musts that it was impossible to be around him without…
Thinking Yourself Healthy: How to Be Happier by Thinking Healthier
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• “I’m actually very pleased that Joe broke off our relationship. ” None of Elaine’s friends believed her. It was evident to them that she was really very hurt and puzzled by Joe’s behavior. By rationalizing,…
Thinking Yourself Healthy: How You Think So Shall You Feel
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Gina complained that she felt down or upset a lot of the time. “I have no control over the way I feel,” she said. When she learned that her thoughts were largely responsible for her feelings,…
Valentine’s Day is Over, The Argument
In my rearview mirror, I see A turquoise truck, GMC Two people are in it Heads are moving, all around Side to side, and up, and down • They’re arguing • Valentine’s Day is over! The woman’s head is much…
Strategies for Staying Sane: Beating Procrastination-Part 2
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Ken’s friends kidded him about always putting things off. “If there were a Nobel Prize for procrastination,” they said, “you’d be a sure winner.” But the fact that Ken had been fired from three jobs in…
Strategies for Staying Sane: Beating Procrastination, Part 1
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Friday, 4:15 p. m. Glenn realizes tte grant proposal has to be in the mail today or he stands no chance. The proposal is still in outline. Can he finish it, polish it, and mail…
Strategies for Staying Sane: Beating Insomnia
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Betty’s poor sleep habits were getting her down. She took sleeping pills and tranquilizers from time to time, but hated to rely on pills ~ especially habit-forming drugs. She was not aware that some simple…
Ruth, Our Smiley Lady: Smiley Love in the Kitchen
Loving toast. Loving life. Hope you are, too. Up early and starving! Out to the kitchen to make toast with butter and lots of salt. That’s right. I’m not ashamed to say, “I love salt.” I also love sugar, fried…
Strategies for Staying Sane: Rapid Relaxation Methods
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Carl used to be described as “uptight.” In fact, he was such a taut person that he suffered from chronic back pain and excruciating headaches that his doctors ascribed to tension. He was also very…