Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus
Leon had a demanding job and often felt stressed out. He grew concerned when his doctor told him that his blood pressure was too high. He discussed the situation with a close friend who mentioned a mental imagery method he had learned from a psychologist. At first, the process struck Leon as rather ridiculous, but he decided to give it a try. He found the result most satisfactory.
People who can use their imaginations have a ready-made skill that can be put to good effect in many situations.
One very effective method is to
- create a room of your own, in your imagination,
a very special room exactly the way you want it to be in terms of size, layout, furnishings and colors.
This then becomes your own private and distinctive place, a sanctuary that you can visit any time you wish. When you need a refuge, when you need a place to recharge yourself, to lick your wounds, to get yourself together, to go and think, or for any other reason, you can quickly and easily go there.
The process is simple: get as comfortable as you can, relax, close your eyes, and allow your mind to create, in its own way and at its own pace, an image of a very special place. You can make your place extremely safe and private, a room of your very own, unknown to anyone but you, arranged any way you like. The best part: you can go there anytime you so desire.
Take your time… When you have a place in mind, try it out. Mentally walk around in it… Look out the window if it has one… Check out the feel, and smell and sounds of it… See if it’s right for you, and remembering that the power of your mind is virtually unlimited, change whatever you want in order to make your special place exactly the way you want it.
In this imaginary room you can be totally yourself… You can get in touch with your inner resources… You can be aware of your strengths and positive feelings… You can determine what will be in your best interests… You can plan changes you want to make… You can do anything at all that you want to do at that moment.
- Visit your special room often.
The more you practice this, the quicker and easier it will be achieved. Even brief five-to-ten minute visits can be highly comforting or energizing ~~ as you wish.
When you leave the room, you should feel alert, fully functioning, very refreshed, and ready to go about your business.
It has been said, “No matter where you go, there you are.” By developing your own private imaginary sanctuary, no matter where you find yourself physically, you will have an emotionally safe place to go to.
Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus is a licensed psychologist, Co-founder and Clinical Director of The Lazarus Institute. In addition to his general psychotherapy practice, Dr. Clifford Lazarus specializes in health and neuropsychology.
Dr. Clifford Lazarus received his B.A., M.S., and Ph.D. in psychology from Rutgers University where he was a Henry Rutgers Research Scholar. Seen here are excerpts from one of his books, The 60-Second Shrink – 101 Strategies For Staying Sane In a Crazy World, a book, he co-authored with his father “One of the ten most influential psychotherapists in America” Arnold A. Lazarus, Ph.D. For more details on Dr. Clifford Lazarus visit this link to The Lazarus Institute. Or visit his page here on friendlysuggestions.com.
Direct links to two highly recommended books by Dr. Clifford Lazarus & Dr. Arnold A. Lazarus: