Tag: Clifford Lazarus

Building Successful Relationships: Keys to a Successful Marriage

••• Laura and Kyle went for marriage counseling. Laura was clearly upset. “Kyle’s on ‘automatic NO!’ ” Then she almost sobbed: “Even if I ask for a small favor it’s ‘No!’ ” Kyle retorted, “I don’t think that’s true, but…

Getting Your Act(ions) Together: Don’t Suppress Your Feelings

••• Natalie tended to bottle up her emotions. “I was taught to sit on my feelings,” she explained. “In our family the girls were expected to smile sweetly and shut up.” After a course of assertiveness training, Natalie started verbalizing…

Getting Your Act(ions) Together: Taking Responsibility

••• Delia played the “blame game.” Whenever something was not to her satisfaction, she blamed someone else. She never asked herself if she had contributed anything to the situation. Even when clear-cut facts were brought to her attention, she refused…

Getting Your Act(ions) Together: The Importance of Movement

••• “I’m a natural born couch potato.” Maurice said this with an air of resignation. Then he added, “I even remember finding every excuse in the book to avoid gym at school. ” Maurice needs to learn that strenuous exercise…

Getting Your Act(ions) Together: Inject Humor into Your Life

••• Nancy was telling her friend about an incident that happened several years ago at a party. Nancy’s husband got drunk and made a spectacle of himself. “I was so embarrassed,” she said, “and so angry that I was practically…

Thinking Yourself Happy: Sticks and Stones May Break My Bones

••• Susan was extremely sensitive. A real or imagined slight, a harsh glance, an overlooked letter, a minor criticism would send her into the depths of gloom and anguish. Her sister remarked: “Susan gets hit by emotional Mack trucks ten…