Tag: mental health

Thinking Yourself Healthy: The Dangers of Faulty Positive Thinking

••• Isaac suffered from what could be called “blinding optimism.”  He focused          exclusively on the bright side of life, on all the good events.  By sweeping harsh realities under the rug, he was often taken by surprise when unmistakably negative circumstances arose.  He was…

Thinking Yourself Healthy: More about Shoulds & Musts

••• Norman, a twice-divorced thirty-six-year-old lawyer, came for therapy.  He often ran into interpersonal problems, but recently he had lost three close friendships, had a serious falling out with his parents, and his fiancée had broken off their engagement.  No wonder! Norman had…

Thinking Yourself Healthy: The Tyranny of the Should

••• Al could not understand why he had no close friends. He saw himself as honest and caring. What he did not realize was that he had so many shoulds, oughts and musts that it was impossible to be around him without…

Thinking Yourself Healthy: How to Be Happier by Thinking Healthier

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• “I’m actually very pleased that Joe broke off our relationship.  ” None of Elaine’s friends believed her.  It was evident to them that she was really very hurt and puzzled by Joe’s behavior.  By rationalizing,…

Thinking Yourself Healthy: How You Think So Shall You Feel

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Gina complained that she felt down or upset a lot of the time. “I have no control over the way I feel,” she said.  When she learned that her thoughts were largely responsible for her feelings,…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Beating Procrastination-Part 2

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Ken’s friends kidded him about always putting things off. “If there were a Nobel Prize for procrastination,” they said, “you’d be a sure winner.”  But the fact that Ken had been fired from three jobs in…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Beating Insomnia

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Betty’s poor sleep habits were getting her down. She took sleeping pills and tranquilizers from time to time, but hated to rely on pills ~ especially habit-forming drugs. She was not aware that some simple…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Rapid Relaxation Methods

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Carl used to be described as “uptight.” In fact, he was such a taut person that he suffered from chronic back pain and excruciating headaches that his doctors ascribed to tension. He was also very…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Meditation: Part 2

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Terry entered the office, presented himself to the secretary, and sat down to await his appointment with the boss. As he waited, be closed his eyes briefly, and he used the rapid meditation method he…