Tag: mental health

Strategies for Staying Sane: Exercising Your Brain

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Molly, whom we met in the previous vignette, doesn’t know it, but she could employ several specific methods to better balance her perceptions. When a friend suggested some options for her, she said, “I’m satisfied…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Achieving Mental Balance

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Molly was described by her friends as a well-developed negative personality. “She’s very good at seeing the dark side of things, but she does not often detect the positive aspects of her experiences,” they observed.…

Strategies for Staying Sane: Reprogramming Your Mind

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• George had been an unhappy and anxious person for most of his adult life. Finally, after many years of silently watching him suffer, his younger sister, Jennie, suggested he seek counseling and disclosed to him…

Strategies for Staying Sane: The Power of Imagery

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Bill and Bob were good friends for many years who met while starting out as entry-level employees at a large corporation.  They both developed an interest in golf and would play together regularly.  Over the…

Strategies for Staying Sane: What to Say When You Talk to Yourself

Dr. Clifford N. Lazarus ••• Charlene was very hard on herself and often put herself down.  While she’d never dream of verbally abusing or even harshly criticizing others, she nevertheless thought it was perfectly acceptable to treat herself in this…

Building Successful Relationships: Can You Trust Her? That Depends…

••• Gloria habitually made blanket statements about not being able to trust anyone. Her friend Karen never questioned anything or anybody. Guess which one frequently discovered someone had taken advantage of her? ••• We frequently hear people say, “He can’t…

Building Successful Relationships: Fight for a Successful Marriage

••• Marilyn and Peter’s problem was not that they tended to argue. They tore each other apart! Their arguments were vicious and extremely hurtful to both of them. Their painful, dirty fight tactics were destroying their marriage. ••• Like Peter…

Building Successful Relationships: How to Help a Troubled Relationship… …or Make a Good One Better

••• Like many busy professional couples, Jay and Georgia had drifted apart and almost lived in separate worlds. Nevertheless, they clearly cared for one another and needed to implement a direct and effective formula that would revive and nourish their…

Building Successful Relationships: Keys to a Successful Marriage

••• Laura and Kyle went for marriage counseling. Laura was clearly upset. “Kyle’s on ‘automatic NO!’ ” Then she almost sobbed: “Even if I ask for a small favor it’s ‘No!’ ” Kyle retorted, “I don’t think that’s true, but…

Getting Your Act(ions) Together: Don’t Suppress Your Feelings

••• Natalie tended to bottle up her emotions. “I was taught to sit on my feelings,” she explained. “In our family the girls were expected to smile sweetly and shut up.” After a course of assertiveness training, Natalie started verbalizing…